I'm new on the site so I've come to this thread a bit late, but in the interests of never saying no, Erotica is a subject I'm interested in. Alternatively, people are my muse, so avoiding sex is nigh on impossible.
Did you know 70% of recognised Erotica authors are men writing for a female dominated market ?
The general concensus amongst those in the know seems to be that the majority of current Erotica offers nothing new for women and is not in the least empowering, but literature is the form of pornography women respond to best.
The dictionary definition of pornography is: obscene writing with no artistic merit. Time for a change in thinking perhaps before anything good about the genre is damned for perpetuity. It is, after all, important to women or they wouldn't read it in such vast numbers.
Shirley Conrans 'Lace' was written from the standpoint of explaining sex from a female viewpoint within a story and was seen as 'surreptitious sex-ed at its most entertaining' (Stylist.co.uk - Do women need erotica).
The difference between 'Lace' and current male dominated Erotica writing would seem to be that men associate Erotica with porn and something that is the story and women associate Erotica with education and something that enhances a story.
I do write Erotica and I have co written Erotica with a guy to view a given scenario from both viewpoints. It was educational, immense fun and surprisingly romantic in feel. But importantly the co written Erotica was only a necessary element of a plot and the guy I was writing with was equally interested in providing valuable input to the rest of the story. Men are remarkably romantic - so why they insist on dwelling on porn is a mystery. Perhaps they are misled into so closely associated Erotica with porn because perceived market forces tell them thats how it should be.
My view (and apparently those in the know) is that Erotica needs more female influence, it needs more female authors to become a more credible genre with something worthwhile to say.
While I'm here I should add that I was invited to write for bodice buster fiction publisher but I turned it down. The thought of writing to such a strict set of formualic rules put me off - I was sure I would soon get bored.
Bodice buster fiction is one thing, porn another, but Erotica is something completely different.